Sunday, November 07, 2010

Not So Easy Sunday

THE BIG THING:  Well, I know you were all happy that we were going to adopt a shelter kitty.  Alas...

It was OJ.  But then the Shelter Gods said he has a bonded brother and suggested Ace.  I went along with that because he seemed nice.  But when I agreed to him, the Gods of the Shelter mentioned that he had to go with his own brother.  I declined that because I want a single cat who will bond with Ayla and Iza.  When THEY suggested another, it turned out they HE was bonded to a brother as well.   I explained to the Gods of The Shelter that they weren't QUITE catching on that I wanted a young single orange/white DSH boycat to bond to Ayla and Iza and then they suggested another orange/white kitty.  Long haired...  I explained I wasn't prepared to adopt a long haired kitty.

No offence to long-haired kittys, but I'm not a brusher.  So then they suggested an older male who likes dogs and "is like one".  Well, I don't have dogs.  Sorry to the dog people but I don't like dogs.  If I wanted a dog, I would have a dog.  And I don't want a cat who is like a dog.  And I do feel sorry for that cat.  But the point wasn't to have an older male cat set in his ways, but rather a playmate to Iza and a friend to Ayla.

The whole process has fallen off the rails.  The Shelter Gods are determined that I will have an older cat who will live unbonded to Ayla and Iza.  They are obliviously focussed and quite frankly, STOOPID.

I'm not trying to be mean here... I know what I want and I was being pulled away from that vision of "catness" slowly but surely.

And I was reminded that the adoption form gave the Shelter Gods the absolute right to come into my house AT ANY TIME and take "their" cat away for any reason.  I'm sorry, I won't allow that kind of control.  So I withdrew my adoption form and I will never deal with the Shelter Gods again.  I just will not permit that.

I do trust that most all shelter people are wonderful and would not actually take a cat away from a good home without good reason.  But their demand that they COULD, without objection, is unacceptable to me.  So the next cat, as all the previous wonderful cats I have shared time with before will NOT come from a shelter.

I will hope that, next Spring, there will be some homegrown orange/white kitten that needs a good Forever Home.  I will give it one.  But I will NOT surrender my right of choice to the Shelter Gods who insist on deciding FOR me, what cat I MIGHT be allowed to have so LONG as they allow it. 

Sorry...  I know this will seem harsh to my very good friends who support shelter adoptions.  I hope that all shelter kitties are adopted too.  But I won't do it under the adoption terms as currently are routine.

One day next year, I will see an ad in the local paper for some young cat or kitten who attracts my attention.  And it will have a wonderful life here.  But it will be free of the Shelter Gods...

25 comments:

Cheysuli and gemini said...

We think you will find the perfect orange and white kitty. I am sure it is just because he was not at the shelter at the time.

Ayla and Iza, said...

I suppose I am going to have to be difficult about this. Two perfect kitties (from my point of view) WERE available at the shelter. They just weren't the kitties that the Shelter Gods thought I should have.

And I will say, without the kitties meeting me and having a right to decide for themselves. They were prevented from me, and I from them.

The Big Thing

Lisa, Jack and Baby said...

I was looking for 2 older cats to adopt. I had just moved to where I could have them, finally. My first day in, my neighbor came over to tell me she had this skinny stray she'd been feeding, was I interested...blah, blah, blah. I thought, okay, this is the one. Took it in. Spent $$$$$ on thyroid problem Found out it was already owned, but the owners happily let me take over, plus the $$$$ (people, please put ID on your free roaming pets). The cat died 2 months later. Then, was at a workshop on TNR for Alleycat Allies at the Shelter, and on my way out came upon a stray orange kitten, which I surrendered to the Shelter. Was told they'd call me when it was cleared for adoption. I didn't hear back, so I called. They said they didn't hava policy of notifying the finder, and the kitten was already adopted. Then, one night on Craigslist, there they were, the perfect littermates, available from a rescue org. They have been absolutely perfect. Eventually, it happens.

Mr Puddy said...

I'm a long hair tuxie who look like a dog in some way. But I think you quite clear what do you want. For my point of view, It's better to deny than you took those kitties and final, you have to take them back like some people do. That is more sad !!!
Me and my mom, we support people to adopt cat from the shelter. But we concern about before people adopt them, they should consider cats is long term responsible and cats are complicate ( Territorial Issue )
I think you do concern all about that.
You might can find the right cat from other shelter. When you met one , I think you will know it.
This shelter might be a bit pushy. But if you look in other way. They might just want the feral to find home. But they might forgot what is right for you.
We hope you have a luck next time to find right one for youself , for Ayla and for Iza to complete your beautiful family.

Sparkle the Designer Cat said...

I honestly think some shelters are a little TOO picky and particular about their adoptions. There are some things that are important, and humans do need to be screened, but it sounds like they were trying to push you in a direction that wasn't right for you and Iza and Ayla.

The right kitty will come along, and you never know when it is going to happen. Sometimes they even just show up on your doorstep!

the casbah kitten said...

We understand. YOU know your home and your kitties and what type of purrsonality would fit best. I don't think those Shelter Gods were considering that. Alice came from a shelter and I'd LOVE to adopt her a friend as jane DOES NOT like her much.....someday, someday it will happen. We're sending purrs your way for Ayla and Iza to find the purrfect baby brother.

Brian said...

Hopefully others will adopt shelter kitties. I was adopted once and they treated me horribly and the shelter ladies came and got me. I'd probably be dead.

Sylvester, Camille and Ava said...

wow thats a ashame, in a way its nice they don wanna seperate bonded pairs. and the house thing... wow When Ava and camille were adopted they said our mom could be fined if they felt they were not cared for properly and taqken away. but had nothing about comeing to the house uninvited. Just wait till spring when the kittens bloom, maybe you could save a kitty on death row?

AFSS said...

Some shelters and rescues have very "annoying" (it was the best word we could think of at this time) rules. Our Mommy & Daddy wouldn't deal with any shelter/rescue that could take their fur baby away either. We are sure they mean well, but ummmmm we thinks it makes it far to hard for the poor animals in their care to get adopted. And trying to get you to adopt a cat that didn't fit into your home was STUPID as well a a recipe for disaster. Mommy got very annoyed with lots of rescues when she was trying to find a dog, so we understand what you were dealing with.

We know you probably want to meet the cat in person before adopting it. That makes sense to us and is purrfectly understandable. But we thought we would mention Winnie's Wishes, as we understand they are willing to transport the cats anywhere, in order for them to have a loving home. Here is the link http://dogsandcats.typepad.com/blog/

Lone Star Purrs said...

That is upsetting that it seems like the shelter was pushing their own "agenda" ahead of helping find furefur homes. There's no telling how many ofur beins were offened by their tactics and didn't adopt frum them. So sad fur the kitties. Yurs will find you in time....Skeeter and LC will make shur of it!!
::purrs::
~Meeko & Kiara

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Cory said...

The right kitten is out there for you, we just know it. We too understand how some rescues make it too hard for wonderful people to adopt. We had a hard time when looking for Grete...mom hit her head against a wall with any GSD rescue org that found out we had kitties here. LOTS of kitties! They wouldn't even talk to her.

So finally she found the right dog with the right people and now we have our Grete woofie!

It will happen.

Pee Ess...mom found my momma and me by looking on Petfinder.com and being willing to travel just a bit out of our area. Maybe you can find the right kitty that way.

Natalie said...

Some shelters are so uptight and, as a previous commenter said, push their own agendas rather than concentrate on what's best for the animals and the humans trying to adopt them. I ran into that when I was looking for a kitten before I got Scarlett. Just when I was on the verge of giving up, I found exactly what I was not looking for on Craigslist and she turned out to be perfect. So... I know the right kitty is out there and will come your way. Maybe just not right away.

Daisy said...

I'm sorry it did not work out, but I know you will find your perfect orinch boy! It is good you want to get the right kitty since it is a lifelong commitment.

Katnip Lounge said...

TBT, let karma and serendipidy do their magic...kitten season is coming, and there are many other organizations other than the Shelter Gods. Heck, come hang out by my house and you can have your pick of the poor animals that get dumped into the desert, daily.
There's a kitty out there and he's got your number, I know it!

Max said...

Most shelters, if it comes down to not getting a forever home for a kitty, will remove the part of the contract that says they can come take the kitty away. That's why Buddah is still here, I think... well, that and we moves so much they'll never be able to find him again. Dangit.

Anyway, I think most shelters have that clause. It's annoying, but they gotta be careful because some people just suck.

The Kitty That's Meant to Be will find you. The kitties who came before will push him your way...

Shaggy, Scooby and Scout said...

What Max said.

Derby, Ducky said...

Humph to your Shelter Gods! We should all go over and poop on their pillows!

TBT you are correct in standing up to your right to select your own kittie. Not having the Shelter Gods push a kittie on you. Probably ones they want to get rid of!

Don't worry, a good kittie will come your way. Happy to know you want a ginger!

Spitty-the-Kitty said...

What Max said! And you know, the kittehs that people put up signs about or advertise need good homes too.

Milo and Alfie Marshall said...

Mom said she undestands. She said that one of the shelters around here has "attitude" too ~ and goes on about taking the cat back at anytime they please. Mom said it's in case they cat is not looked after properly 9which is OK) ~ but it's the way they say it that is annoying.
Yoo will find yoor purrfect cat one day ~ and he/she will be worth waiting for.
Have you considered one of Winnie's siblings ~ Over at Crystal's blog (a private animal rescuer in south Illinois, USA):

http://dogsandcats.typepad.com/blog/

I don't know where you live, but apparently transport is not a problem. One was recently rehomed in Canada.

Shaggy, Scooby and Scout said...

Still thinking of you TBT.
Your situation has bothered me since I read it yesterday. Especially since the Sunday paper had an article about the Animal Humane Society which serves our Minneapolis metro area. They only place about 1/2 the cats that come in. 10,000 (yes ten thousand) are put down each year. It said some are sick, old or have behavioral problems that make them hard to place. They lose out to the kittens. They have no problem placing dogs, but they say people see cats as disposable. I was heartsick reading it.
Then good homes come along in the form of you and your shelter won't adopt out. One less cat who needs a home! I'm just baffled. Shelters aren't busy enough, they need to send out "social workers" to take back cats!!? Incredible. -SSS's Mom

The Crew said...

As much as all cats need homes, we all have our specific circumstances and only we know our resident cats personalities and who will fit in best with our families. I know the right cat is out there who will become Ayla and Iza's brother.

West 40 Cats said...

It is a shame for sure that they try to push what you know would not fit. I worked in lots of shelters and never agreed on pushing an animal on someone. You will find one that is ment for your home all in good time. I rescued a few from shelters, but most of my kittys have been dropped off at the end of the laneway. It all works out in the end!

Da Crazy Lady

The Misadventures Of Me said...

Mark, take a look around Grayson Co Humane Society's site (http://www.graysonhumane.org)- they are running out of room and do transports from Kentucky all the way up North here. If you see a kitty there and are interested, let them know Trooder's mom sent you ;) and they will work with you if you want a certain kitty.

Laure

Tiki & Kirby (& sometimes Kesey) said...

The right one will come along. We weren't even looking for a cat when along came StanLee who was smart enough to butter up Daddy and patient enough to wait outside until it was time to be inside. Kirby came from a no-kill shelter, but they were way nicer about it. Kirby greeted the people at the door, head butted Daddy and that was that.

Tiki