You can't make him be compliant. We can understand that he wouldn't want to leave his home and uproot himself at that age. He, like us, has his territory and his comfort zone.If there are health issues, that's a problem, though. We would hope there are resources for in-home care or nursing home care, regardless of his finances. It's a very difficult situation for TBT, we're sure.
mom's grandpa had problems too toward the end - they managed to find very good in home care for him. Uprooting at that age can be so hard.... but if yu can make it seem like HIS idea??
Oh dear, that is a tough one. Now, TBT has mentioned occasionally about moving himself...maybe meet in the middle? Although in the current housing market it's just not that easy. I dread this day with my parents, too. I think persuading him that it's HIS idea is the way to go...as a start. Sometime you just have to put your foot down, as unpleasant as that is. Good luck, and paws & fingers crossed.
We have never had to make that decision. When the Male's Mom needed care there wasn't a choice--they didn't have the facilities to care for her in Alaska so she had to move down here (although she's in a home, thank heavens as she does not like cats at all--we knew there was something wrong with the Male! Fortunately he knew if the cats had to go the Woman would go too...). At any rate, the Woman was never able to convince her father to move anywhere so we don't have any advice.
We don't envy TBT's predicament. We all face this at sum point. Our Nana and PawPaw are movin in wif us in the next year. LOTS of compromising. (they haf 3 woofies) They will haf their own suite and so will we. Good luck and purrs!
What is TBT's dad's living situation now? If he is on his own and does not want to move to MD, maybe an assisted living facility would be better. My human's mom died three years ago and she offered to let her dad move here (there is a whole upstairs apartment area he can have), and it has taken him this long to decide that maybe he wants to do it. He is not that much younger than TBT's dad. I think old humans take their time making up their minds, so maybe that's part of the issue.
We can't give any advice but we hope everything works out for all of you and TBT's dad.
We can't offer any advice, but we are sending purrs that things work out for the best.Truffle and Brulee
That sure is a tough one. Maybe give him a little silvervine then ask again.
You three hafta turn on the charm. When he sees how wonderful you are, he'll be begging to move to be close to you.
Purrs to you. Our Grampie wanted to move near one of the his kids as he got older. So while he never lived with mum, he was close by for the last 7 years of his life. The sons stopped by as they needed to as well during that time. Good luck.
I think if you three are as charming as you can be, maybe TBT2 will *want* to come hang out wif U all the time! On the other hand, if he has the happeez in Florida, it will be hard to make him move up north. Is he still able to live independently? If so, maybe he can stay where he is with a little household help?The Humans pawrents died a long time ago, when she was just in her very early thirties, so she did not have to cope with them gorwing very elderly. It is a hard problem but we know you and TBT and TBT2 will find the right solution for all of you.
Charm him so he doesn't want to leave you!
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