TBT: Today, I buried Iza and set her memorial marker over her. If you want to see the pictures, they are HERE. I know such things can be upsetting. I think it respected a beloved cat.
LAZ UPDATE: Laz has suddenly become MUCH MORE FRIENDLY. He occasionally accepted (and enjoyed) scritchies a few days ago, but he was a bit twitchy about it and would suddenly run off. Well, something finally "clicked in his mind", and I am suddenly the best thing since sliced bread. Well, in cat terms, maybe a live mouse trapped in a bathtub.
3 days ago, he suddenly started rolling and mewing at my feet for attention. And I gave it fully. He might not be a lap cat (yet) but he tolerated it for minutes. He is a roller, stretcher, and grabber-with-paws.
2 days ago, I opened the bottom drawer of my dresser (basically full of stuff I don't wear often) and he spent some time digging around in it (I figured it seemed like a REALLY COOL LITTERBOX to him and I was prepared to wash everything in it - a cheap price for making a new cat happy), but he settled in to sleep for most of the night. He was actually aggressive in seeking me out and demanding attention that day.
Yesterday, he began to follow me around the house. Not at my heels like Iza, but very often being in the same room (as opposed to hiding UTB)! And feeling comfortable sniffing both Marley and Ayla. Marley doesn't mind; Ayla is unsure sometimes.
He is very much a nightcat. Almost all day, he sits under the waterbed headboard, so I put 2 bowls under there with him (1 canned, 1 dry of the Foster's suggestion). But come evening, he is around the house and wants attention. He gets it.
Last night, he was walking around the bedroom (he talks loudly and frequently) and I finally encouraged him up on the waterbed. He was uncertain, so it took some calling to him, but he finally came up and got scritchies.
And stayed ALL NIGHT pushed up against me! And he is a hot little body. But that was a major adjustment, and I am glad for it. It is still a bit "near and far" for him (apparently by time of day), but if he has gotten to the point where he can sleep for hours nestled against me, he has mostly adjusted to his Forever Home. And Me. And Marley and Ayla.
Ayla has maybe had the most difficult time adjusting. She hissed, she spit, she chased, she whapped. Never in any serious way, but defending her position in the house, I suspect. And she has calmed down too.
I have seen Laz and Ayla sitting calmly near each other, both walking side by side down the hallway towards me, and eating close (both like to eat in the bedroom). I have caught them talking to each other. I know they say cats only "meow" to people, but they do make "merf-merf" sounds to each other. Not often, but they weren't looking at ME.
Laz is either a bit destructive or clumsy (not knowing where everything is in his new home yet). He knocks things over. I found a vase broken on the floor, a desk lamp over my bed on the pillow, and a new roll of TP had puncture holes in it. We'll worry about that later when Laz is more settled-in.
I never know who is eating what or where these days. Marley is used to eating in the kitchen. He loves his Stinky Goodness, but for some reason, he demands dry crunchies at about 5 PM. Ayla used to eat in the bedroom either on the shoe rack folded towels or on the dresser, and she won't eat there lately. Demands windowsill eating (at 3 different windowsills).
Since I released Laz from the Mews Room, I don't know WHERE he eats. I put both canned and his dry food under the waterbed headboard, in the Mews Room, and next to him wherever he is. Marley is a good scavenger; he can find food anywhere.
The important thing is that nokitty is losing any weight, so I suppose I just go on like this for a while until I learn who really wants to eat where. I would LIKE to have them all eat 3 daily meals in the same place so I know what they eat, but this is not yet the time to "push them" about that.
But again, the major news is that Laz spent all last night on the bed next to me. I can go forward with that!